Looking for a new job when you are unemployed is hard and frustrating! It can become the most discouraging thing, especially when it seems like your new job is being a professional interviewer without the salary. Or when you constantly get passed up for a position that you were certain that you were absolutely perfect for, especially when you just spent your last $5 to take the train to get there. You mapped out your morning commute, identified a new pilates studio to join after work, and saw yourself giving weekly presentations to your new boss. All to be let down, because they found a better “fit,” leaving you to feel like you just weren’t good enough. I can totally relate, as I have been on the job hunt for a month now. As frustrating as looking for a new 9-5 home can be, I recognize the importance of keeping your head up. Here are some tips to staying in the game, when you feel like you are losing.
1. What Is For You Is For You. I HATE this saying, but it is true. It seems to apply to all the things that you really want, but never seem to get. My friends and family told me this recently, after I was passed up for my dream job in New York. After crying and feeling like a complete failure for a few minutes (who am I kidding, a few hours), I realized that I was a bit relieved that I didn’t get the job. It would mean completely uprooting myself, moving to a new city that I didn’t like, and emptying my savings for the move.
2. Don’t Linger. Take a few hours to have a pity party and then get back at it. Don’t allow the feelings of failure to linger for too long or it will affect future performance. When I heard the news about my dream job, I had an interview the next day. I had to pull it together in order to have a positive performance the next go round.
3. Prepare. In order to make sure you land the next job you interview for, practice with a friend. My friends and I sometimes do mock interviews, in order to prepare one another. I tend to ask several friends in various industries to evaluate my responses, especially ones who work in my industry. If your friends don’t work in your industry, and you need someone to asses the quality of your responses to more technical questions then ask an old co-worker that you trust. If you find yourself stumbling around on the same questions, interview after interview, then google potential responses.
4. Stay Confident. I have theme music I play in my head as I’m riding up the elevator (mine is “One Mic” by Nasty Nas) that gets me pumped. It reduces my nervousness, but also helps me to focus. Whatever it is that makes you super confident before your interview (outside of Mollies and Patron), do it an hour before your interview.